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Coherence of our energy field helps us to feel better, be healthier and develop stronger abilities to create the circumstances of our lives. Coherence combined with intention is a powerful combination for attracting and creating more of what we DO want to show up for us.

Developing our power to let go of what doesn’t feel good is a large part of bringing our energy into coherence. Learning to let go is a challenging task. As with any learning in life, there is a learning curve. Please be patient with yourself. Generally speaking, the learning involved with all the concepts and tools presented in this program is part of a lifelong journey that can bring you continuously to deeper and broader levels of experience in many areas of your life.

Stop for a moment now and consider these questions….

Can you remember a time when you felt fearful or anxious and it helped you to be prepared?

 Can you think about a time when you experienced fear or anxiety and it was not useful but became a feedback loop within your mind and emotions that kept you all churned up to no avail?

We know that it is healthier to let go of negative feelings and be more positive, and we can learn how to respond to situations from a higher perspective as we go through our lives. Often, though, we do not; because of mental and emotional conditioning that occurs during our lives, particularly during our youth. Conditions and experiences are registered in our energy fields and then become self-referencing feedback loops.

Learning skills that allow you to imprint in your physiology the FEELING of letting go moves the ideal from the realm of thought into the realm of reality and experience.

Reprinted from Chapter 1, 12 Keys for Life and Self Mastery

Peg, Tony and I would love to have you join us for our radio show on Monday Nov. 30 at 10 A.M. – our topic will be Cultivating Joy. The holiday season is supposed to be one of joy; however it often is not for many. On this show we will be discussing ways that you can tap into more joy regardless of the stresses in the world or in one’s personal life. If you cannot join us live the show is recorded and available for listening later.
http://www.divatoolbox.com/diva-toolbox-radio-/hosts/2007-peg-donahue-and-karen-kallie-living-energy.html

At this time of the year we begin to turn our attention to the upcoming holidays and all that they mean. Of course there is the busyness, shopping and increased social commitments. But there is also a deeper current that flows through this time of year. It seems that many of us feel that current and yearn to connect with it as it seems to promise a more fulfilling state of being than the one we generally get caught up in during this time.

At the first of these holidays, Thanksgiving, our thoughts turn to menu planning, travel and seating arrangements, invitations and how to get it all done in the midst of an already busy life! The deeper feelings of gratitude and appreciation symbolized by this day get a passing nod in media hype, a brief grace said at the dinner table or in a lament about not having the time to pay attention to those aspects of life!  There are many reasons for this but perhaps the key issue is a lack of understanding regarding the real influence of these feelings and so they are relegated to the airy-fairy file.

 Gratitude and appreciation are emotions, feeling states that have been studied at length and have been shown to profoundly impact our physical, spiritual and emotional health. When you experience them your heart rhythms change, your nervous system becomes more coherent and your whole physiology behaves differently—all in the direction of health and more efficient functioning. Why would you not want to engage in an activity that is so simple, pleasant and easy and promises to provide such benefit? There are no gym fees, heavy sweating or big chunks of time taken out of your schedule. It merely requires a desire to take charge of your own mind, learn how it functions and point it in the direction you wish instead of allowing it to run amok in its conditioned default patterns. The feelings of gratitude and appreciation set up a vibration within you that are worth the price of admission to make them the standard instead of a sometime event!

 So, how can you begin?

Simply by asking the right questions!

What do I have to be grateful for?

What in my life do I really appreciate?

 Remember to think broadly. We live life moment by moment. The huge awards, recognitions, and ‘deals’ are not daily fare. To some they never come —and they may be the lucky ones as they may be more in touch with the deeper rhythms of life where there is more juice, feeling and connection to the real stuff of being human. That it not to say that material success  is wrong or to be turned away from, only that often too much attention in that direction can result in a disconnect within a person that leaves them empty, longing and entrenched in pretense rather than in the authenticity that leads to a sense of inner fulfillment.

So think about the moment….the warmth of the sun, the crispness of the air, the beauty of the sky. Where can you find beauty today? Where can you find the touch of peace? What do you see that warms your heart?

 Before you go to sleep tonight identify five things that made you happy, feel complete or that you appreciated. Remember to count yourself things you value about YOU!

 Use your memory to call up images of times when you felt grateful…play those over and over instead of the wouldas, couldas, shouldas that tend to rumble around in our minds!

 Make placing your attention on gratitude a habit and you may begin to notice that a subtle inner peace is growing and has brought you “home for the holidays”!

From one of my favorite people, a wonderful statement on shifting from a feeling of powerlessness to one of empowerment.

“Who lives a life of joy? Who in this society knows the day to day thrill and privilege of being alive?”

These two questions can lead us all to a daily choice-

1. To let drop away all that blocks our experience of  life as a gift and privilege

2. To do what it takes for the energy of joy to find its free expression through our being.

The term “new human” has been used as a way to  describe ourselves as we move along the path of evolving our human nature and integrate more of our spiritual capacity in our daily lives.

A recent experience at a presentation Peg and I did has led me to thinking that more conscious compassion may be a part of this new human presence and expression.

The purpose of our presentation was to use Aura Imaging to show people their energy in real time. This is a type of biofeedback that allows you to see what your energy looks like first without any attention and then how it shifts as you experiment with various mind states and stimuli.

In groups when we have done these demonstrations people are often most amazed to see how different each person’s energy is, as well as how easily their energy shifts even with small changes in intention and attention.

This particular evening all was going along pretty typically until one woman sat and I noticed right away that I felt a strong urge to place my hands on her shoulders and “run energy” to her. I just chalked that up to my thinking it had simply occurred to me that it would be fun to show the group the effect of that. However, once she was situated on the equipment I could see that her aura was showing signs of turbulence, disorganization and incoherence especially around her heart chakra. When I placed my hands on her shoulders I could feel a deep inner trembling in her.When I asked if she was experiecing any kind of pain or discomfort she began to weep and said she had broken up with a boyfriend that day. 

It then occurred to me to ask the group to come and encircle her and simply send whatever feelings of love and care that they could. Its worth mentioning here that these people were not energy healers and did not know this woman, they were  simply folks from all walks of life who were interested in the topic of energy and its effects.

As we stood in a quiet space and simply held that intention of flowing love and care, everyone could watch on the computer screen as the aura shifted and changed . The whole experience was less than five minutes but we all watched as  the darkness in her field dissipated, the earlier signs of turbulence faded and her energy became more smooth and flowing. In addition a beautiful pink color began to suffuse her field especially in the heart area. This is a color that I have seen frequently when healing energy is flowed either within or to a person.

In addition to the changes we were seeing on the screen, there were signs externally that something was shifting for this person. The tears stopped, her body relaxed, she became more settled and said with surprise in her voice that she was feeling much better. What she described was feeling much stronger and centered with the sharpness gone out of her pain. She began to speak more about how she felt she would move on from this experience rather than about being overcome and paralyzed by her grief. Her conversation reflected that she was regaining her inner balance and her composure and was indicating that she was beginning to feel that she would be able to move beyond the immobilization, disorientation and disorganization that she had felt for most of that day.

Did this  experience last beyond the time of the presentation? I do not know. What I do know is that for a moment she and we had a real time example of how we can all care for, support and nurture each other simply with a moment of focused compassion.  We all had a visual representation now of how our conscious intention affected energy. Perhaps moreimportantly we had a very real experience of being able to make a difference even with a stranger by how we hold and express our selves through our energy. And of course, even if this woman’s pain reemerged with all its intensity, she now had had an experience that showed her that she could move beyond and feel differently and did not have to be a “victim” of her pain.

We can all give ourselves and others the gift of energy. Doing so enlivens both the giver and the receiver. Simply being present and intending care can help support a person to move to the next best place for them. Receiving the energy of care frees us up and clears a space to be able to know our next best step on the path of healing and wholeness.

The quote below comes from Marianne Williamson and her book, A Return to Love. 

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

On our radio show, Monday Nov. 2, 2009 at 10 A.M. on the Diva Toolbox, we will be discussing:

What is personal power?

Why DO we fear it?

How do we release those fears?

What is the connection between personal power, energy & consciousness?

How can we become more empowered from the inside out?

We would love to have you join us http://www.divatoolbox.com/diva-toolbox-radio-/hosts/2007-peg-donahue-and-karen-kallie-living-energy.html and share your thoughts and questions on this topic OR if you would like  add your comments or questions here in the comment box! Remember, all shows are recorded and archived so you can listen at your convenience if you are not available at the time of the call.

The state of our energy has a lot to do with how we feel and experience our lives. When our energy is strong, free flowing and of optimal frequency we feel wonderful, resilient and able to manage our lives from a position of strength, ease and happiness.

 There are many things in our daily lives that can weaken or deplete our energy. Heat, artificial light, dissonant, loud or harsh sound, electricity, computers, and junk food are some examples.

In addition, stress, blocked negative emotions, unhealed emotional trauma, negative thinking, worry, fear, and toxic interactions with others also unbalance our fields. Examples of the latter are: people and situations that do not honor who you are, respect you, or contribute to your well being. Remember the questions in the previous post regarding how we experience energy? There was a question about being been around someone who feels wonderful as a result of your interaction, but you feel exhausted, stressed or out of sorts. Being aware of your own energy and caring for yourself from that perspective helps you to eliminate the effects of stress on you.

Another fairly typical situation we all experience is when we find ourselves doing something we really did not want to do, that was not in accord with who you are or where you wanted to be.  Have you ever gone along with someone or something and felt a sense of inner tension because you didn’t want to participate or you didn’t believe in what you were doing? We all have at one time or another. But when we begin to understand that these types of situations weaken the field, perhaps it becomes easier to choose more wisely, on our own behalf or at least self correct after the event. A weakened auric field leaks energy.  That is not healthy for us and ultimately not good for the others involved either.

Begin to observe your day and see where and how you can include more energy awareness and strengthening activities and reduce energy drainers. Keep a small notebook with you to jot down reminders, notes and ideas to implement when possible. Commit to changing one thing a day to bring your ideas from the realm of thought or intention into reality!

In a previous post I made mention of Secondary Attention as an aspect of mind that focuses more on the spiritual, inner world as opposed to the more common mind that focuses on external realities. We certainly need that outer focus and the aspect of mind that facilitates it, but that is not all of who we are and it is not what may be most needed at this juncture in time as we are being challenged to evolve, stretch our limits and create a new world that works for all of humanity’s support, nurture and survival.

First Attention

Our five senses draw our attention to the outer physical world. When we have an outer directed focus we look for our inner needs to be filled through material sources. This is usually a short lived and unsatisfying solution. You may have experienced this at some time in your life! Interestingly (and painfully!), this orientation tends to lead to blame, criticism, judgments, and compulsivity (repetitive behaviors expecting a different outcome).

 From a spiritual perspective being outwardly directed tends to produce reliance on a spiritual being external to ourselves. We beseech this Great Being to bestow favors upon us –and we continue to define ourselves through the physical, roles and material possessions–a limited consciousness that has limited results. In addition, it a mindset that begins and ends in fear—never particularly useful! Such a mindset, or perspective, leaves us up one day down the next as there is no real inner center to hold on to. Like it or not, change is inextricably woven into the fabric of life and a consciousness that is deeply focused on and attached to the outer world does not help you to move gracefully through cycles of change. AND such a focus certainly does not help to increase your capacity to function in the world in a meaningful way that leads to peace, joy & happiness!

 Second Attention

Second Attention can be likened to your intuition, gut feeling, inner knowing or sixth sense. This sense is about an inner awareness that can assist you to resolve issues, release struggle and longing and receive the true fulfillment of your deepest desires.

Developing this aspect of self is an inner path allows you to (1) examine thoughts, feelings and beliefs that lead to problems and root them out at the core which is far more effective than struggling against the consequences of living with an unexamined mind, (2) open the way to more creative problem solving, (3) expand your consciousness beyond the physical and material world and awaken you to who you truly are, (4) help you to transcend limitations, expand creative ability, and step into your true power. And in the process you can also gain increased tolerance, ease of being, happiness, understanding and vitality!

 Expansion of Second Attention

Proper alignment and attunement of the energies of body, mind and spirit goes to the core of developing second attention through a clear and present awareness. This awareness allows you to know what is good for you, and helps to attract to you those things that assist you to be happy and healthy. You also become more conscious of what robs you of your natural healthy state and eliminate the sources of your struggles.

 Developing your inner awareness and learning how to manage your energy involves learning to listen to your body and mind in a new way that helps you to create health and happiness from the inside out! It is also about bringing balance to your life, fulfilling a basic need for purpose and meaning, as well as opening to the wisdom available to you. Educating yourself about how to work with energy can also aid you in riding the waves of life more gracefully. We all have an innate capacity for joy, pleasure, harmony and a balanced spiritual toughness (resiliency) that goes largely untapped. These inner capabilities can help us to find pleasure in everyday life.

 As a culture we are grappling with yearning for deeper connections within ourselves, with each other, and the world around us. We also are facing challenges that go beyond the capacity of the common mind to rise to and move beyond. We need a higher perspective and more highly creative solutions to birth a sustainable new world. A new human has been posited to be a part of creating that new world as well as being an inhabitant of it. Inner development is needed to fulfill those realities. Learning to develop our mind and its abilities, to masterfully navigate our mind-body systems, and work with personal and universal energy we can accomplish these tasks.

Skill Building: Develop your Second Attention

  1. Do you ever get exhausted after spending time with certain people?

 People who lack energy look outside themselves to “recharge their batteries.” When you are with them, they can take your energy to replenish theirs.

 2. Have you ever felt someone staring at you?

 We emit large amounts of energy from our eyes. When someone is staring at you, you are literally feeling their energy.

 3. Have you ever felt an instant dislike for someone?

 We are always “reading” other people’s energy fields to see how compatible they are with ours. Just as some substances – like oil and water – don’t mix well, when you feel an instant dislike for someone, your energy field isn’t mixing well with theirs.

 4. Do some people excite and energize you more than others?

 People who have energy reserves tend to extend and exchange their energy with others. When you’re with someone who excites you, or whose energy mixes well with yours your energy level is boosted, you feel more energized.

 5. Do you ever know how someone is feeling before they tell you?

 People emit information about themselves through their energy fields. When you can sense how someone feels, you are picking up and decoding this information.

 6. Do you ever experience different feelings in different rooms in your home, or in other people’s homes?

 Environments have an energetic” blueprint,” just as people do. Often this is a result of the emotional exchanges that have gone on in that space. When you get a feeling from a place, you are picking up on this residual energy.

 7. Have you ever had an initial impression that you talked yourself out of, only to find later that you were correct?

 We pick up on energy and register impressions/information unconsciously. When you don’t act on a hunch, it’s because your unconscious mind picks up on the energy associated with the hunch, but, because your conscious mind can’t see or measure your thoughts, it rationalizes it away.

 The above are all examples of knowing that emerges from Second Attention.

 You may want to play with sensing how the different places you inhabit in a day feel when you get out of your mind and settle down inside to simply directly experience them.

Be aware of how your sense impressions feel when you quiet your mind and just allow yourself to ‘be present’ with them.

 We would love to hear about your experience in the comment section!