Living Energy Blog

Yesterday I was visiting my Dad at his nursing home (talk about fear—there’s a big one for those who may be aging– but that is a topic for another day), and the travel channel was on. The program airing was about a series of places where people go and things that they do to be scared to death!

It struck me that we have a paradox going on in our culture where we purposely put ourselves in danger so we can overcome it—or watch others do so–and we use every measure we can to avoid facing our internal fears. We distract ourselves, keep frantically busy, focus on others’ failings, get caught in compulsive or addictive behaviors, or tune out in some other creative way.

I think one of the reasons we avoid our inner landscape is that we are unaware of what is truly going on inside of us and another is that even if we are open to the notion of shifting our inner schema,  we may not know where to begin. 

Before getting to the suggestions for changing fear from the inside out,  I need to say that I think facing great danger and possible extreme bodily injury can in fact be one way that a person can attempt to overcome deep fears or insecurities. Sometimes I think it can even seem preferable to wrestle a boa or hurtle down a gigantic sand dune complete with dangerous jumps than to face our own inner demons. However, in my opinion, the side effects or repercussions from taking that tactic seem a  little shaky in terms of a well thought out plan.

There is good news about facing our fears! Once we do they evaporate and open up a whole lot of space for our authentic selves to shine through–and no broken bones or viper venom to deal with—usually!

So what do you do in order to conquer fear? 

1. Identify False Beliefs

Questioning how you perceive the world and challenging your beliefs can help begin the process of letting go of fear. It can feel tricky to sort out limiting beliefs because we have lived with them as truth for much of our lives.

Listening to your inner dialogue and challenging it, observing your habitual patterns and thinking more deeply about what they may be saying about you, and questioning what may be behind your reactive behaviors can all help to illuminate false beliefs. In 12 Keys for Life and Self Mastery we have a whole chapter on discovering limiting beliefs and what to do to remedy them. (shameless plug)

2. Ask yourself some new questions

What are you really afraid of?

What is the likelihood that it will happen?

How can you look at the issue differently?

What if you were free of your fear, what would you do? 

3. Does staying stuck in your fear help you in some way? 

Sometimes we are not willing to do what it takes or are afraid of the new responsibilities or roles that come with a deep change—it’s good to know that!

Some helpful questions:

How does this fear serve me, protect me, or help me maintain an identity?

What am I avoiding by not facing or moving through this fear?

Do I want to accept this way of being or move through the fear of change? 

4. Identify the needs behind your fear

Our needs are not usually a problem. How we go about getting them met due to our unconsciousness is what trips us up. If you can be clear about what you need and seek positive means to fill those needs the negative can fall away.

5. Adopt a Perspective of Strength

Access inner states when you felt strong, able, confident and bring those feelings to the forefront of your awareness when seeking to face fear. When we are in fear our energy contracts and we feel weak and unable to cope. When we access strong internal states we can link those feelings to new situations and benefit throughout own inner resources—a deep feeling of trusting ourselves can be a side benefit here in addition to collapsing the fear.

You can also ask yourself  if there are new strengths that are trying to be born through the challenge of the fear you are facing. What new ability or quality is trying to be born in you? If this were the perfect situation to point you in a new direction, what would that be?

6. Use grounding and centering techniques on a regular basis

Quieting body and mind, centering and grounding your energy goes a long way to calming yourself and being able to employ some of the other methods mentioned here. It can also open you up to higher ways of knowing that can guide you on your journey to freedom from fear.

Fear like stress is a part of life. We do have the ability to conquer it, if we reach deep, open to new information and perhaps try some new approaches. Fear creates–easily and readily given the intensity of its grip. We need to become aware and more conscious within ourselves to gain our freedom and thus be better able to create what we do want in our lives.

Stress constricts our energy and drains us of our vitality. All effective stress management techniques help alleviate the constrictions and blocks to our flow of energy and thus enhance our overall feelings of well being, peace and happiness. Laughter is a wonderful way to open up our channels of energy and let the good times flow!

The term “new human” has been used as a way to  describe ourselves as we move along the path of evolving our human nature and integrate more of our spiritual capacity in our daily lives.

A recent experience at a presentation Peg and I did has led me to thinking that more conscious compassion may be a part of this new human presence and expression.

The purpose of our presentation was to use Aura Imaging to show people their energy in real time. This is a type of biofeedback that allows you to see what your energy looks like first without any attention and then how it shifts as you experiment with various mind states and stimuli.

In groups when we have done these demonstrations people are often most amazed to see how different each person’s energy is, as well as how easily their energy shifts even with small changes in intention and attention.

This particular evening all was going along pretty typically until one woman sat and I noticed right away that I felt a strong urge to place my hands on her shoulders and “run energy” to her. I just chalked that up to my thinking it had simply occurred to me that it would be fun to show the group the effect of that. However, once she was situated on the equipment I could see that her aura was showing signs of turbulence, disorganization and incoherence especially around her heart chakra. When I placed my hands on her shoulders I could feel a deep inner trembling in her.When I asked if she was experiecing any kind of pain or discomfort she began to weep and said she had broken up with a boyfriend that day. 

It then occurred to me to ask the group to come and encircle her and simply send whatever feelings of love and care that they could. Its worth mentioning here that these people were not energy healers and did not know this woman, they were  simply folks from all walks of life who were interested in the topic of energy and its effects.

As we stood in a quiet space and simply held that intention of flowing love and care, everyone could watch on the computer screen as the aura shifted and changed . The whole experience was less than five minutes but we all watched as  the darkness in her field dissipated, the earlier signs of turbulence faded and her energy became more smooth and flowing. In addition a beautiful pink color began to suffuse her field especially in the heart area. This is a color that I have seen frequently when healing energy is flowed either within or to a person.

In addition to the changes we were seeing on the screen, there were signs externally that something was shifting for this person. The tears stopped, her body relaxed, she became more settled and said with surprise in her voice that she was feeling much better. What she described was feeling much stronger and centered with the sharpness gone out of her pain. She began to speak more about how she felt she would move on from this experience rather than about being overcome and paralyzed by her grief. Her conversation reflected that she was regaining her inner balance and her composure and was indicating that she was beginning to feel that she would be able to move beyond the immobilization, disorientation and disorganization that she had felt for most of that day.

Did this  experience last beyond the time of the presentation? I do not know. What I do know is that for a moment she and we had a real time example of how we can all care for, support and nurture each other simply with a moment of focused compassion.  We all had a visual representation now of how our conscious intention affected energy. Perhaps moreimportantly we had a very real experience of being able to make a difference even with a stranger by how we hold and express our selves through our energy. And of course, even if this woman’s pain reemerged with all its intensity, she now had had an experience that showed her that she could move beyond and feel differently and did not have to be a “victim” of her pain.

We can all give ourselves and others the gift of energy. Doing so enlivens both the giver and the receiver. Simply being present and intending care can help support a person to move to the next best place for them. Receiving the energy of care frees us up and clears a space to be able to know our next best step on the path of healing and wholeness.

Our minds are powerfully creative. You may have heard that and even believe it and yet still find that you are not able to generate what you would like in your life. Discouragement, disbelief and abandonment of effort are all possibilities when our attempts at conscious creation do not produce the results that we desire.

It is essential to realize that the common level of mind that we generally operate from is not where our true power to create resides…the true power is found in a deeper aspect of mind and being.

To fully and effectively engage this power, we need to develop  a not so common capacity for clarity of awareness, concentration and an ability to really focus our energies. We need a commitment that includes developing these capacities and integrating them into a state of BEING. We called our business  Living Energy to highlight not just the fact that we are all energetic beings, but that we need to LIVE or embody the energy of that which we seek to have in our lives. To do this we need to learn new methods that will allow us to embrace and effectively use ALL of our higher potential.  In fact our foundation course, 12 Keys for Life and Self Mastery is all about the tools and techniques that help you do just that!

Here is a video that speaks to some of these ideas and can  encourage you to stay on your path of conscious creation and new ways of BEING in your world!

On our radio show, Monday Nov. 2, 2009 at 10 A.M. on the Diva Toolbox, we will be discussing:

What is personal power?

Why DO we fear it?

How do we release those fears?

What is the connection between personal power, energy & consciousness?

How can we become more empowered from the inside out?

We would love to have you join us http://www.divatoolbox.com/diva-toolbox-radio-/hosts/2007-peg-donahue-and-karen-kallie-living-energy.html and share your thoughts and questions on this topic OR if you would like  add your comments or questions here in the comment box! Remember, all shows are recorded and archived so you can listen at your convenience if you are not available at the time of the call.

The quote below comes from Marianne Williamson and her book, A Return to Love. 

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

On our radio show, Monday Nov. 2, 2009 at 10 A.M. on the Diva Toolbox, we will be discussing:

What is personal power?

Why DO we fear it?

How do we release those fears?

What is the connection between personal power, energy & consciousness?

How can we become more empowered from the inside out?

We would love to have you join us http://www.divatoolbox.com/diva-toolbox-radio-/hosts/2007-peg-donahue-and-karen-kallie-living-energy.html and share your thoughts and questions on this topic OR if you would like  add your comments or questions here in the comment box! Remember, all shows are recorded and archived so you can listen at your convenience if you are not available at the time of the call.